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Making Cents of It All: How to Combine Finances After Marriage

Admin • March 15, 2024

Getting married is such an exciting time! You’ve found your soulmate and are ready to build a life together. While you may be caught up in wedding planning bliss, one of the less romantic but critical conversations you need to have is about your finances. 

Marriage is not just a union of hearts; it’s also a merger of financial lives. Whether you’re coming into the marriage with significant assets, some debt, or a mix of both, it’s crucial to prepare and align your financial strategies. Money issues are one of the top reasons for divorce , so it’s best to get on the same page from the start.

Let’s jump in and look at how you can set the stage for a financially secure and happy marriage!

Understanding Each Other’s Financial Standing

Let’s face it — talking about money isn’t easy. Many of us have shame or anxiety around finances. But relationships require vulnerability and honesty, especially regarding something as integral to your lifestyle as money. Being transparent with your partner will only strengthen your bond.

Before you merge lives (and bank accounts), have a heart-to-heart about your current financial situation. This conversation should cover your income, debts, savings, investments, and other financial obligations. Transparency is key. It might feel uncomfortable discussing student loans or credit card debt, but these are crucial details your partner needs to know.

The goal isn’t to judge but to understand and plan. If there’s a significant disparity in assets or liabilities, consider how it affects your future together. Does it make sense to pay off debt together, or should the person who brought it into the marriage handle it independently? These decisions are personal and should be made together with respect and understanding.

Combining Finances After Marriage

The decision on whether to combine your finances is a significant one. According to a survey by creditcards.com , 23% of American couples have completely separate finances, 34% take the “yours, mine, and ours” approach of partially combining finances, and 43% have fully combined their finances. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. 

  1. Fully Combined Finances : All incomes, debts, and assets are merged into joint accounts. This fosters unity and simplifies management but requires a high level of trust and cooperation.
  2. Partially Combined Finances : Joint accounts are used for shared expenses and savings while maintaining some individual accounts for personal spending. This method allows for shared financial responsibilities while preserving individual autonomy.
  3. Separate Finances: Keeping finances completely separate, with a system for dividing shared expenses. This might work well for couples who value financial independence or have significant differences in income or debt.

Discuss these options and choose the one that feels right for your relationship. Flexibility is essential; what works now may need to be adjusted as your life together evolves.

Handling Unequal Assets and Liabilities

When one partner brings considerably more assets or liabilities into the marriage, it can create a dynamic that requires careful handling. 

Prenuptial agreements are often misunderstood, but they can be a practical tool for outlining what happens to assets and debts if the marriage ends. They’re particularly worth considering for those entering a marriage with significant assets, a business, or children from previous relationships.

For ongoing liabilities like student loans or credit card debt, decide together whether these will be paid off jointly or individually. Consider the impact on your joint financial goals, like buying a home or saving for retirement. 

It’s also worth discussing how you’ll contribute to savings and investments, especially if there’s a significant income disparity. Equality in a marriage doesn’t necessarily mean contributing the same amount financially but contributing in a way that feels equitable to both partners.

Important Considerations

  • Emergency Fund: Regardless of how you choose to manage your finances, having an emergency fund is crucial. Aim for three to six months’ worth of living expenses in a readily accessible account.
  • Estate Planning: It’s not the most cheerful topic, but deciding on wills, powers of attorney, and beneficiaries is essential. These decisions ensure that your assets are distributed according to your wishes and that your partner is protected if something happens to you.
  • Insurance: Review your health, life, and disability insurance coverage. Marriage is a qualifying event that may allow you to make changes to your benefits outside the usual enrollment period.
  • Tax Implications: Marriage can affect your tax situation, often positively. Consider consulting with a tax professional to understand the implications and plan accordingly.

The Psychological and Emotional Aspects

Money discussions can be fraught with emotional undercurrents, often because they tap into deeper issues of security, trust, and values. Recognize that your attitudes towards money were shaped long before you met your partner, influenced by your upbringing and life experiences. Be open to learning about your partner’s financial perspective, and be prepared to compromise.

Money mindsets and habits typically start in childhood. It may be helpful to discuss topics like:

  • How did your family handle money growing up?
  • What behaviors or beliefs stuck with you?
  • What’s your biggest money fear?
  • Are you risk-averse or more of a gambler?

Understanding each other’s financial “baggage” and ingrained attitudes provides insight. Then, you can have deeper conversations about why you make certain choices and how to balance each other. 

Agree On Financial Goals And Lifestyles 

Now comes the fun part — dreaming together about what you want out of life! Cover things like:

  • Homeownership goals – size, location, timing
  • Lifestyle must-haves – vacations, cars, entertainment, etc.
  • When you’d like to retire, and what that lifestyle looks like
  • How do you envision providing for future children – college savings, activities, etc.

Setting shared financial goals can be a powerful way to align your efforts. Working towards these goals together can strengthen your relationship. Regularly review your finances together, celebrate milestones reached, and adjust your plans as necessary.

Let Five Pine Wealth Management Partner With You

Starting a new life together is exciting. And let’s be honest, figuring out how to handle money together might not be the first thing on your mind amidst all the wedding planning and dreaming about the future. But it’s important. 

That’s where we come in. At Five Pine Wealth Management , we’re all about having those open, honest chats about money. We’re here to help you figure out a game plan that makes sense for both of you, ensuring you’re both feeling good about handling your finances.

Call us at 877.333.1015 or email us at info@fivepinewealth.com to schedule a meeting to discuss how you can start this exciting new chapter of your life on the right financial foot. With Five Pine’s help, you can focus more on the fun stuff, knowing your finances are in good hands.

 

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🎉💍Just tied the knot or about to walk down the aisle? Congratulations! Stepping into married life is an adventure of a lifetime.

But wait, have you sat down with your partner to have “the talk”? No, we’re not talking about who gets the remote control — we’re talking about finances! 💸

Yes, merging your financial lives is just as important as exchanging those vows. 

From handling debts to combining bank accounts, we’ve got you covered with some essential tips for managing your money as a newlywed team.

So, are you ready to kickstart your married life with a solid financial plan? To learn more, check out this week’s blog post! It’s packed with friendly advice on starting your married life on the right financial foot.

Don’t let money matters get in the way of your happily ever after. 

Trust us; it’s a read you won’t want to miss. 📖

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May 23, 2025
The day your last child leaves home hits differently. It’s not just about the quiet hallways or fewer groceries in the cart. It’s the moment you realize that the life you’ve known for 20+ years is evolving into something new. For many, that change is deeply emotional. But it’s also a golden opportunity. At Five Pine Wealth Management, we work with parents who are entering this new season of life. Maybe you’re celebrating. Perhaps you’re feeling uncertain. Likely, you’re feeling a mix of both. This new chapter comes with financial freedom and decisions to match wherever you land. Let’s explore the smart financial moves you can make as empty nesters. Empty Nesters: A New Financial Season Meet Rob and Dana. After 25 years of raising three kids, their youngest finally left for college last fall. Their house, once bustling with backpacks, soccer cleats, and half-eaten cereal bowls, suddenly felt oversized and eerily quiet. They weren’t used to grocery bills being cut in half or weekends without games and activities. But what really surprised them? Just how much less money was going out each month. They came to us with a familiar feeling: a mix of excitement and uncertainty. "We think we're in a good place," Dana said. "But are we doing what we should be doing?" This is where a financial check-in becomes vital. With fewer day-to-day expenses and more flexibility, this is a time to refocus your finances. Here’s where to focus: Revisit your monthly budget. Your spending needs have probably changed. Without dependents at home, you may find new flexibility. Redirect those dollars toward long-term goals. Refresh your financial goals. That dream trip to Italy or the kitchen renovation you’ve put off? Let’s pencil it in, but also ensure your retirement accounts are getting the love they need. Update your estate plan. Now that the kids are young adults, your wills, healthcare directives, and beneficiaries may need adjusting. Freedom looks different for everyone, but for many, it starts with clarity. Pre-Retirement Planning: Your Next Big Financial Milestone For most empty nesters, retirement is no longer a distant concept—it’s getting real. Pre-retirement planning becomes a critical focus, especially in your late 40s to mid-60s. This is often the highest-earning period of your life and the sweet spot for pre-retirement planning. Here’s what we help our clients prioritize: Maximizing retirement contributions : As an empty nester, your cash flow could increase by 12% or more . Now’s the time to supercharge your 401(k), IRA, or other investment accounts with that extra cash. If you’re 50 or older, take advantage of catch-up contributions. Evaluating your risk exposure : Is your portfolio still aligned with your risk tolerance and timeline? Consider your tax strategy: With fewer deductions (like kids at home) and possibly a high-earning year, you may want to explore Roth conversions, charitable giving, or other tax-aware strategies. Running retirement projections : We help clients answer big-picture questions like: When can I retire? Will I have enough? What lifestyle can I realistically support? These aren’t always easy questions, but they’re essential. Planning for healthcare : Don’t wait until 65 to think about Medicare. Explore long-term care insurance and out-of-pocket expectations now. Rob and Dana sat down with us to run a retirement analysis. With only 8 years until Rob planned to retire, we helped them rebalance their portfolio to reduce risk, evaluate their pension and Social Security options, and make a plan to pay off their mortgage early. The result? They now have a clear retirement date and peace of mind. Should I Downsize My Home? One of the most common questions we get from empty nesters is, “Should I downsize my home?” It’s not just a financial question. It’s an emotional one, too. That house holds birthday parties, graduation photos on the stairs, and a dent in the drywall from a wild game of indoor tag. But it may also hold higher property taxes, more space than you use, and maintenance costs that don’t serve your current lifestyle. When deciding whether to downsize, we walk clients through: Total cost of ownership : What are you paying for the space? Emotional readiness : Are you ready to let go of the home? What would moving free up? : Cash for retirement? A move to your dream location? Family needs : Will your kids (or grandkids) be visiting regularly? Would a smaller home still support that? Downsizing doesn’t always mean moving into a tiny condo. Sometimes it means relocating to a one-level home with less yard or trading square footage for a better lifestyle. For Rob and Dana, downsizing meant moving to a townhome closer to their daughter and walkable to their favorite coffee shop, all while cutting their housing costs by nearly 35%. Give Yourself Permission to Dream Again One of our favorite things about working with empty nesters is helping them rediscover what they want. For years, life revolved around the kids. College tours. Dance recitals. Saturday mornings spent on the soccer sidelines. You were investing in their future. Now, it’s time to invest in yours. That might mean: Launching the business you put on hold Traveling during off-peak seasons (because you can!) Picking up a new hobby or volunteering more Creating a legacy through charitable giving or a family foundation Whatever it is, we want to help you align your money with your vision. Ready to Rethink the Next Chapter? This stage of life is full of opportunities, but it can also raise big questions. The good news is you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. Whether you're considering downsizing, exploring early retirement, or just want to know you’re on the right path, Five Pine Wealth Management is here to help you plan wisely, invest intentionally, and live fully.  Take advantage of this pivotal financial moment. Call (877.333.1015) or email us today to schedule your empty nester strategy session. The empty nest doesn't have to feel empty. It can be the launch pad for your next chapter of financial success.
April 17, 2025
“Should I convert my traditional IRA or 401(k) to a Roth?” If you’ve asked yourself this question lately, you’re in good company. Perhaps you’re a high-earner who makes too much to contribute directly to a Roth IRA but wants access to tax-free growth. Or maybe you’re concerned about future tax rates and want to ensure more tax-free income in retirement. With market volatility and changing tax laws on the horizon, many of our clients are wondering if a Roth conversion could be a smart money move to save on taxes and provide more flexibility down the road. While we think Roth conversions are a great strategy, they don’t make sense for everyone. Let’s break down when Roth conversions actually make sense — and when they don’t — in plain English. Back to Basics: What is a Roth IRA? Before we dive into strategy, let’s recap the differences between a Roth retirement account and a traditional one. Traditional retirement accounts, such as a traditional IRA or 401(k), provide you with a tax deduction when you contribute. You save on taxes now , but you’ll pay taxes on that money in the future when you withdraw it as income in retirement. A Roth IRA allows you to contribute money that you’ve already paid income taxes on. You don’t enjoy savings this year, but the interest you earn on that money grows tax-free, and the withdrawals are 100% tax-free in retirement once you meet certain eligibility requirements. For many people, these lifetime tax savings are significantly greater , which is why a Roth conversion is such an intriguing strategy. What Is a Roth Conversion? Imagine you’ve been making retirement contributions to a traditional 401(k) for the past 25 years. You’ve enjoyed income tax deductions each year as you squirrel away money for your future. But as you’re scrolling through your newsfeed one night after dinner, you come across an article about the unexpected tax bills many retirees are faced with in retirement, significantly eating into their retirement income. The article suggests making contributions to a Roth account instead, in order to avoid this scenario in the future. But you’ve already been making contributions to a traditional account for 25 years. Have you missed out? Not necessarily. With a Roth conversion, you can move money from another retirement account, such as a Traditional IRA or 401(k), into a Roth IRA. Essentially, a Roth conversion allows you to “pre-pay” taxes so your future self won’t have to. For many people, this can be a smart move. But there are caveats: Convert too much at once, and you might push yourself into a higher tax bracket this year. Convert too little over time, and you might miss opportunities to lower your lifetime tax bill. The challenge lies in finding the right balance. When Roth Conversions Make Sense In general, Roth conversions can make sense for individuals in the following circumstances: 1. You’re a High Earner For 2025, direct Roth IRA contributions are phased out for single filers with incomes between $150,000-$165,000 and for joint files with incomes between $236,00-$246,000. If your income exceeds these thresholds, you can’t contribute directly to a Roth IRA. However, Roth conversions have no income limits. This creates a powerful opportunity for high-income earners to still enjoy tax-free growth in retirement. By making non-deductible contributions to a traditional IRA (which has no income limits) and then converting those funds to a Roth IRA — often called a “backdoor Roth” — you can effectively circumvent the income restrictions. 2. You’re in a “Tax Valley” You may be in a “tax valley” if you’re currently experiencing a period where your income is lower than you expect in the future. For example, you may be early in your career, taking a sabbatical from work, or starting a business. These can all be opportune years to make a Roth conversion. New retirees may also find themselves in a temporary “tax valley.” For example, if you’re recently retired but haven’t yet started collecting Social Security or required minimum distributions (RMDs), this window from your early 60s to 70s could be a golden opportunity to convert portions of your traditional retirement savings into a Roth. By strategically moving money over a few years, you can fill up the lower tax brackets and reduce your future RMDs, which might otherwise push you into a higher bracket later. This can also help reduce the tax burden on your Social Security benefits once you begin collecting them. 3. You Have a Long Time Horizon Younger investors in their 30s and 40s may benefit from a Roth conversion if they have decades for that money to grow tax-free. For example, $100,000 converted to a Roth at age 35 could potentially grow to over $1 million by retirement age — all of which could be withdrawn tax-free. That same conversion done at age 60 might only have time to grow to $140,000-$150,000 before withdrawals begin. 4. You Want to Leave a Tax-Free Legacy Roth IRAs are powerful estate planning tools. Your spouse can treat an inherited Roth IRA as their own, allowing the assets to continue growing tax-free without requiring distributions during their lifetime, creating the potential for decades of additional tax-free growth. Kids or grandkids who inherit a Roth IRA will also enjoy a tax-free inheritance, at least for a time. In contrast, inheriting a traditional IRA means your beneficiaries would pay taxes on every dollar they withdraw — potentially during their peak earning years when they’re in a higher tax bracket. When Roth Conversions Don’t Make Sense Of course, just because you can convert doesn’t mean you should . Here are a few situations when a Roth conversion strategy might not work in your favor: 1. You’re Currently in a High Tax Bracket If you’re currently in your peak earning years and already paying taxes in the 35% or 37% federal tax brackets, converting could mean handing over a substantial portion of your retirement savings to the IRS. For example, a $100,000 conversion for someone in the 35% federal tax bracket could trigger an additional tax bill of $35,000 or more. If you expect to be in a lower bracket during retirement — say 22% or 24% — waiting to pay taxes then might be more advantageous. 2. You Don’t Have Cash to Pay the Taxes The most efficient Roth conversion strategy requires having cash outside your retirement accounts to pay the resulting tax bill. Here’s why this matters: If you have to withdraw extra money from your traditional IRA to cover the taxes on the conversion, you’re reducing your future growth potential. For instance, if you want to convert $50,000 and are in the 24% tax bracket, you may need an additional $12,000 for taxes. If you take that $12,000 from your IRA too, you’d pay taxes on that withdrawal as well, creating a compounding tax problem. Even worse, if you’re under age 59½, you could face a 10% early withdrawal penalty on any funds used to pay the taxes, further reducing the effectiveness of your conversion. 3. You’ll Need the Money Soon In general, Roth IRAs have a five-year rule that states you must wait five years from the beginning of the tax year of your first contribution to make a withdrawal of the earnings. (You can withdraw contributions , not earnings, tax-free and penalty-free at any time.) For Roth conversions, however, a new five-year rule starts separately for each conversion. While there are exemptions to this penalty, such as disability and turning age 59½, it’s worth considering if you plan to use the converted funds in the near future. Enter: The Roth Conversion Ladder One strategy we often recommend to clients who want to implement a Roth conversion is the Roth conversion ladder. This approach helps work around the five-year rule while building a tax-efficient income stream, especially for those planning an early retirement. Here’s how it works: Year 1: You convert a portion of your traditional IRA to a Roth (let’s say $30,000). Year 2: You convert another $30,000. Year 3: You convert another $30,000. Year 4: You convert another $30,000. Year 5: You guessed it — you convert another $30,000. Year 6: Now the Year 1 conversion is available for withdrawal without penalties. Each following year : A new “rung” of the ladder becomes accessible while you continue adding new conversions at the top. Over time, you build a steady stream of tax-free income in retirement that you can predictably access. This strategy is particularly valuable for early retirees who need income before the traditional retirement age or for anyone looking to minimize RMDs down the road. For example, a couple retiring at 55 might build a conversion ladder to provide $30,000 of annual tax-free income starting at age 60, giving them a bridge until they begin taking Social Security benefits at age 67. Meanwhile, they can use other savings for the first five years of retirement while the initial conversions “season.” The ladder approach also allows you greater flexibility to manage your tax bracket each year by controlling exactly how much you convert, rather than converting a large sum all at once and potentially pushing yourself into a higher tax bracket. Making Your Roth Conversion Decision As you’ve seen, Roth conversions are far from a one-size-fits-all strategy. The right approach depends on your unique financial situation, current and future tax bracket, retirement timeline, and long-term goals. When considering a Roth conversion, remember that it’s not just about the math. Many of our clients initially hesitate at the thought of writing a big check to the IRS today, even when they know the long-term benefits. That emotional response is completely normal. This is where thoughtful financial planning comes in. At Five Pine Wealth Management , we help you look beyond the immediate tax bill to see how today’s decisions impact your retirement income, Social Security strategy, and even your legacy plans. Sometimes, what feels uncomfortable at the moment creates the greatest long-term benefit for you and your family. So, should you do a Roth conversion? The answer depends on:  Your current and projected future tax brackets Whether you’re above income limits for direct Roth contributions Your retirement timeline Whether you have cash available to pay the conversion taxes Your estate and legacy goals Your comfort with paying taxes now versus later A Roth conversion can be either a powerful wealth-building tool or an unnecessary tax expense. The difference comes down to proper planning and timing. The Next Step If you’re wondering whether a Roth conversion makes sense for your situation, let’s talk. Our fiduciary advisors will help you evaluate your options and develop a conversion strategy that aligns with your comprehensive financial plan. We’ll walk through different scenarios, look at the numbers together, and help you feel confident in your decision — whether that means converting, waiting, or taking a gradual approach with a conversion ladder. Ready to explore whether a Roth conversion is right for you? Give us a call at 877.333.1015 or send us an email at info@fivepinewealth.com to schedule a conversation.