Build Financial Resilience: How to Avoid the Pressure of Lifestyle Inflation

Admin • January 12, 2024

Your brother-in-law and his family took a luxury vacation in Europe, and you’ve been meaning to take your own family there. Your cousin bought a house on a beach you love to visit. Your neighbor bought a new boat, and you’ve always wanted one. Your friend from college bought a new, bigger house in a highly desirable neighborhood that you’ve been eyeing.

It seems like everywhere you look, someone you know is “winning” at life and enjoying the trappings that come with it, and you don’t like the feeling of missing out.

Keeping up with the Joneses is a phrase you’ve certainly heard – the pressure to keep pace with the lifestyle of your friends, family, or people in your social circle. It can be difficult to resist the feeling that you also need to maintain a particular standard of living, and it’s easy to fall into a cycle where you’re spending more – and possibly overspending – to keep up with your peers.

The stress of upholding a certain status in society can be mentally (and potentially financially) exhausting, coupled with lifestyle inflation – the pressure to spend more as you make more to maintain this status. It can feel like a race where you’re continually spending to keep up with or one-up others. But with the right mindset and strategies, you can avoid lifestyle inflation, escape the race, and build resilience to support your mental and financial well-being.

What is Lifestyle Inflation?

Lifestyle inflation is the tendency to increase spending as your income grows, on things like larger homes, upgraded cars, ultra-expensive vacations, and other material items. Lifestyle inflation, if unchecked, has the potential to become greater every time you receive an income increase: the more you earn, the more you spend.

Maybe you’ve received a raise or a large bonus, or perhaps you’ve started a new job with a higher salary. You feel like you deserve a bigger home, a nicer car, a fancy trip – especially if it seems everyone else is also enjoying those things. It’s hard not to constantly compare yourself to others, particularly with the influence of social media showing you an ideal lifestyle that everyone you know seems to be living. 

You might think to yourself: Why do they have such nice things or (what looks like) such a good life? You should be able to have all that, too; you should be able to have just as much, if not more. You might feel like having these things will reflect your successes, and maybe even make you happier.

The Consequences of Keeping Up With the Joneses

Spending to maintain a certain idealized standard of living can hinder your financial goals and your long-term objectives. When you increase your spending with every increase in your earnings, it’s easy to overspend because you think you can afford it with a higher income. This can cause financial stress and challenges down the road.

Getting caught up in lifestyle inflation can prevent you from reaching your long-term financial goals, such as paying off debt, building your savings, growing your investment portfolio, or saving for retirement. You may be so focused on spending in the present to keep pace with others, that you put off saving for the future.

There’s also an emotional and mental toll to always striving to maintain a certain status and meet perceived societal expectations. If you’re in a constant state of trying to outdo, outshine, and outspend your social peers, you can feel stressed and anxious and you’ll never give yourself the chance to be happy and appreciate all that you do have. 

Change Your Narrative: Strategies to Avoid Lifestyle Inflation

There are a few strategies you can use to help you resist the pressure of lifestyle inflation:

  • It can be helpful to identify your personal triggers that lead you to want to overspend. If you know what affects you, you can be mindful and ignore or avoid reacting to these pressures. It’s also important to remember that what you see may not always be reality – those large purchases and lifestyle choices may be putting your peers into debt or causing them to avoid other financial responsibilities.

 

  • Monitor your spending habits, or create a budget to track your expenses, so that you can see where you may be tempted to potentially overspend. Developing and committing to a budget is a practical and effective way to manage your finances and resist the pull of lifestyle inflation. While your budget can evolve as your earnings grow, it’ll help you increase spending in a controlled manner.

 

  • Use your extra income to build your savings, boost your emergency fund, or grow your retirement accounts and investment portfolios. Purposefully using that money before you can spend it can help you avoid lifestyle inflation while adding to your long-term financial stability.

 

  • Set realistic short-term and long-term financial goals for yourself and your family, and focus on achievable objectives and priorities that align with your values. Your goals will provide a foundation for financial well-being, as well as motivation to refrain from unnecessary spending. 

 

  • Invest in experiences, rather than possessions; value the memories more than the material goods. Shifting your mindset will allow you to experience a deeper satisfaction than the fleeting happiness that comes with spending on things you may not really need. Make sure to take a moment to appreciate all that you do have; building gratitude into your daily life will empower you to resist the draw of lifestyle inflation and help you live a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Cultivate Financial Resilience in Your Life

You can resist and overcome the pressure of lifestyle inflation by concentrating on your financial well-being, both now and in the future. Skip the short-lived gratification of overspending to maintain a certain status, and instead focus on the long-term, lasting achievement of having a secure financial future. 

Consider working with a financial advisor who understands your needs and objectives and can help you create a roadmap for financial success. Having a holistic strategy in place to meet your financial goals will keep you on the right track to building your wealth and planning for the future.

At Five Pine Wealth Management , we’ll work together with you to develop a financial plan with your needs and objectives in mind. As fiduciary financial advisors, we are dedicated to acting in your best interest, offering guidance and advice that is specific to your individual circumstances. We can help you cultivate the financial resilience needed to achieve your financial goals – to find out more, send us an email or give us a call at: 877.333.1015.

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What's the Best Asset Allocation for Someone 10 Years Away from Retirement?

December 22, 2025
Key Takeaways Your guaranteed income sources (pensions, Social Security) matter more than your age when deciding allocation. Retiring at 65 doesn't mean your timeline ends. You likely have 20-30 years of investing ahead. Think in time buckets: near-term stability, mid-term balance, long-term growth. You're 55 years old with over a million dollars saved for retirement. Your 401(k) statements arrive each month, and you find yourself questioning whether your current allocation still makes sense. Should you be moving everything to bonds? Keeping it all in stocks? Something in between? There's no single "correct" asset allocation for everyone in this position. What works for you depends on factors unique to your situation: your retirement income sources, spending needs, and risk tolerance. Let's look at what matters most as you approach this major life transition. 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Moderate Approach (70% stocks / 30% bonds) : Works well for those with some guaranteed income sources, moderate risk tolerance, and a flexible withdrawal strategy. Growth-Oriented Approach (80% stocks / 20% bonds) : Can be appropriate if you have substantial guaranteed income covering basic expenses and the flexibility to reduce spending temporarily as needed. Remember, these are starting points for discussion, not recommendations. 3 Steps to Evaluate Your Current Allocation Ready to see if your current allocation still makes sense? Here's how to start: Step 1: Calculate your current stock/bond split. Pull your recent statements and add up everything in stocks (including mutual funds and ETFs) versus bonds. Divide each by your total portfolio to get percentages. Step 2: List your guaranteed retirement income. Write down income sources that aren't portfolio-dependent: Social Security (estimate at ssa.gov), pensions, annuities, rental income, or planned part-time work. Total the monthly amount. Step 3: Calculate your coverage gap. Estimate monthly retirement expenses, then subtract your guaranteed income. If guaranteed income covers 70-80%+ of expenses, you can be more growth-oriented. Under 50% coverage means you'll need a more balanced approach. When to Adjust Your Allocation Here are specific triggers that signal it's time to review and potentially adjust: Your allocation has drifted more than 5% from target. If you started at 70/30 stocks to bonds and market movements have pushed you to 77/23, it's time to rebalance back to your target. Your retirement timeline changes significantly. Planning to retire at 60 instead of 65? That's a trigger. Every two years of timeline shift warrants a fresh look at your allocation. Major health changes occur. A serious diagnosis that changes your life expectancy or healthcare costs should prompt an allocation review. You gain or lose a guaranteed income source. Inheriting a pension through remarriage, losing expected Social Security benefits through divorce, or discovering your pension is underfunded. Market volatility affects your sleep. If you're checking your portfolio daily and feeling genuine anxiety about normal market movements, your allocation might be too aggressive for your comfort, and that's a valid reason to adjust. Beyond Stocks and Bonds Modern retirement planning involves more than just deciding your stock-to-bond ratio. Consider international diversification (20-30% of your stock allocation), real estate exposure through REITs, cash reserves covering 1-2 years of spending, and income-producing investments such as dividend-paying stocks. The Biggest Mistake: Becoming Too Conservative Too Soon Moving everything to bonds at 55 might feel safer, but it creates two significant problems. First, you're almost guaranteeing that inflation will outpace your returns over a 30-year retirement. Second, you're missing a decade of potential growth during your peak earning and saving years. The difference between 60% and 80% stock allocation over 10 years can mean hundreds of thousands of dollars in portfolio value. Being too conservative can be just as risky as being too aggressive, just in different ways. Questions to Ask Yourself As you think about your asset allocation for the next 10 years: What percentage of my retirement spending will be covered by Social Security, pensions, or other guaranteed income? How flexible is my retirement budget? Could I reduce spending by 10-20% during a market downturn? What's my emotional reaction to seeing my portfolio drop 20% or more? Do I plan to leave money to heirs, or is my goal to spend most of it during retirement? Your honest answers to these questions matter more than your age or any generic allocation rule. Work With Professionals Who Understand Your Complete Picture At Five Pine Wealth Management, we help clients work through these decisions by looking at their complete financial picture. We stress-test different allocation strategies against various market scenarios, coordinate withdrawal strategies with tax planning, and help clients understand the trade-offs between different approaches. If you're within 10 years of retirement and wondering whether your current allocation still makes sense, let's talk. Email us at info@fivepinewealth.com or call 877.333.1015 to schedule a conversation. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: What is the rule of thumb for asset allocation by age? A: Traditional rules like "subtract your age from 100" are oversimplified. Your allocation should be based on your guaranteed income sources, spending flexibility, and risk tolerance; not just your age. Q: Should I move my 401(k) to bonds before retirement? A: Not entirely. You still need growth to outpace inflation. Gradually shift toward a balanced allocation (60-80% stocks, depending on your situation) and keep 1-2 years of expenses in stable investments. Q: What's the difference between stocks and bonds in a retirement portfolio?  A: Stocks provide growth potential to keep pace with inflation but come with volatility. Bonds offer stability and income but typically don't grow as much.

Rebuilding Wealth After Divorce: A Complete Guide to Your Financial Fresh Start

November 21, 2025
Key Takeaways Divorced spouses married 10+ years can claim Social Security benefits based on their ex’s record without reducing anyone else's benefits. Splitting retirement accounts requires specific legal documents (QDROs for 401(k)s) drafted precisely to your plan's requirements. Investment properties and taxable accounts carry hidden tax liabilities that significantly reduce their actual value. No one gets married planning for divorce. Yet here you are, facing a fresh financial start you never wanted. Maybe you’re 43 with two kids and suddenly managing on your own. Or you’re 56, staring down retirement in a decade, wondering how you’ll catch up after splitting assets down the middle. We get it. Divorce is brutal, emotionally and financially. And the financial piece often feels overwhelming when you're still processing everything else. According to research , women's household income drops by an average of 41% after divorce, while men's falls by about 23%. Those aren't just statistics. They're the reality many of our clients face when they first come to us. But here's something we've seen time and again: While you can't control what happened, you absolutely can control what happens next. Financial planning after divorce isn't just damage control. With the right approach, it can be the beginning of a more intentional and empowered relationship with your money. Here’s how to get there: First, Understand What You’re Working With Before you can move forward, you need a clear picture of your current financial situation. Start by gathering every financial document related to your divorce settlement: property division agreements, retirement account splits, alimony or child support arrangements, and any debt you’re responsible for. 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Importantly, claiming benefits on your ex’s record doesn’t reduce their benefits or their current spouse’s benefits. If you’re eligible for both your own benefits and your ex’s, Social Security will automatically pay whichever amount is higher. What About Splitting Retirement Accounts in Divorce? Retirement accounts often represent one of the largest assets in a divorce settlement. Understanding how to handle the division properly can save you thousands in taxes and penalties. The QDRO Process For 401(k)s and most employer-sponsored retirement plans, you’ll need a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO). This legal document outlines the plan administrator's instructions for splitting the account without triggering early withdrawal penalties. QDROs must be drafted precisely according to both your divorce decree and the specific plan’s rules and requirements. We’ve seen clients lose thousands of dollars because their QDRO wasn’t accepted and had to be redrafted. 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Address your will, healthcare power of attorney, and financial power of attorney, too. You're Not Starting from Zero Rebuilding wealth after divorce is about creating a financial foundation that supports the life you want to build moving forward. You have experience, earning potential, and time. It’s not a matter of if you can rebuild, but how efficiently you’ll do it. If you’re navigating financial planning after divorce, we can help. At Five Pine Wealth Management, we work with clients through major life transitions, creating practical strategies tailored to your specific situation. Call us at 877.333.1015 or email info@fivepinewealth.com to schedule a conversation. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: Will I lose my ex-spouse's Social Security benefits if I remarry? A: Yes. Once you remarry, you can no longer collect your ex-spouse’s benefits. However, if your new marriage ends, you may claim benefits based on whichever ex-spouse's record is higher. 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