Caring for an Aging Parent: A Guide on How to Prepare for the Future

Admin • January 26, 2024

Caring for an aging parent may feel like life has come full circle: they cared for you throughout your younger years, and you now may be facing a future of caring for them. You won’t find yourself alone with this responsibility: according to AARP , an estimated 38 million people in the U.S., or 11.5% of the population, are taking care of loved ones.

Many who provide care for an aging parent are also in the complicated situation of parenting their children. Close to 4.5 million people in the U.S. are members of this “sandwich generation” – between two generations that require care. Beyond the emotional and physical aspects that come with caring for a parent, the financial challenges can be significant, particularly if you are supporting your own children as well. 

Caring for an aging parent doesn’t have to be financially overwhelming – with strategic foresight and careful planning, you can prepare for this stage in life and treasure the time you have together. This checklist for caring for an aging parent can get you started on the right path to plan for the future.

 

Understand the Financial Impact

An important first step is reviewing your parent’s financial situation so you can understand their income sources and current expenses. Aside from the regular expenses your parent may have, their healthcare costs may become considerable, particularly if they require prolonged medical care. A parent turning age 65 today has close to a 70% chance of needing some type of long-term care support through their remaining years. 

Will you be caring for an aging parent in your home and hire a home aide? Or will you be a caregiver to a parent living in an assisted living facility or nursing home? The costs of caring for your parent can vary greatly depending on their living situation and the care they may need.

Does your parent have long-term care insurance? Long-term care insurance policies offer protection against the financial impact of costly extended care needs, and can help preserve your parent’s savings (and potentially yours as well). Long-term care insurance can also provide in-home care and home health care, which can help relieve some of the stress and burden of physically caring for your aging parent yourself.

Take a look at your parent’s income, including pensions, retirement funds, Social Security benefits, and investment income, to get an idea of how their potential expenses will be met. If you anticipate that you’ll have to help out financially, review your savings and investments as well to see what adjustments you can make so that you can offer that support without compromising your own financial security. 

Have Legal and Estate Plans in Place

As you prepare to become a caregiver for an aging parent, legal and estate planning become the foundation and guide for the care you provide. Talk to your parent to see what legal and estate plans they have in place. These are difficult conversations to have with your parent, but proactive legal and estate planning can help ensure a smooth and well-protected transition from their independent living to being under your care.

A living will outlines the medical treatment preferences of your parent, particularly in situations where they may be physically or mentally unable to communicate their needs. Through a living will, your parent can voice how they would like end-of-life, pain management, and medical intervention decisions to be made on their behalf, easing some of your emotional weight as a caregiver in critical times. 

A financial power of attorney grants you the authority to make crucial financial decisions on behalf of your aging parent. Power of attorney is required for you to access your parent’s funds for their care and enables you to make financial transactions for them, including banking, paying bills, taxes, or managing their Social Security and Medicare benefits.

Having an estate plan in place can further strengthen the financial foundation of caring for your aging parent by ensuring that their legacy continues according to their wishes. Inheritance planning can guide the distribution of assets among their heirs, helping to minimize the tax implications beneficiaries may have. Establishing a trust can offer protection of your parent’s assets and ensure a seamless transition of their wealth while potentially avoiding probate. 

Develop a Resilient Financial Plan

You can help minimize some of the financial challenges of caring for an aging parent through a thoughtful investment strategy designed to help you meet the financial needs of caregiving. A financial advisor can help you develop a comprehensive financial and investment plan that’s focused on your current and future objectives, so that you can be better prepared for the uncertainties of being a caregiver without impacting your own long-term goals.

It’s essential to balance your short-term needs and your long-term objectives in your financial planning as a caregiver. You may need immediate money to pay for expenses related to your parent’s healthcare, living arrangements, or other unexpected costs. At the same time, you need to maintain a continued focus on your own retirement planning and wealth preservation beyond your caregiving years. 

Your role as a caregiver has no set time length or path, and you may find yourself having to adapt to changing needs and unforeseen circumstances. Make sure to adjust your investment strategy as your and your parent’s financial needs evolve to safeguard your own retirement and help ensure a more financially secure future.

Remember to Practice Self-Care

Being a caregiver to an aging parent is not just a financially demanding responsibility, but an emotionally and mentally challenging one as well. It can be difficult to witness the toll that age takes on your parent, and the pressure of caregiving can be extremely stressful. 

Make sure you take the time to practice self-care so that the stress, worry, and anxiety don’t cause you to become overwhelmed. Caregiver burnout is real, so make it a priority to seek out support if you need it, take breaks to recharge, and focus on your own well-being. Taking care of yourself will enable you to take better care of others.

How Five Pine Wealth Management Can Help

Caring for an aging parent is not an easy task, but it can go more smoothly with strategic, careful planning. The financial impact of caregiving can be significant, but having a well-constructed financial plan can help ensure that providing care for your parent does not risk your own financial security.

At Five Pine Wealth Management , we can help you develop a financial plan based on your unique circumstances and objectives. As fiduciary financial advisors , we are committed to offering guidance and advice that’s in your best interest to help you reach your financial goals. To find out how we can help you plan and prepare for every stage of life, email us or call us at: 877.333.1015.

 

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The 457 Mistake That Could Cost Early Retirees Thousands

April 1, 2026
Key Takeaways Taking early withdrawals from your 457 while letting your IRA grow can help you build a more balanced retirement plan. First responders with LEOFF or PERSI pensions can use their 457 plan as a bridge between retirement and traditional retirement account access. Rolling your 457 into an IRA at retirement removes penalty-free access to funds before age 59½. Many first responders in Washington and Idaho can realistically retire early. Thanks to pensions like WA LEOFF Plan 2 or ID PERSI, disciplined savings, and a long career of service, retiring at 55 is common. If you've been putting money into a 457 deferred compensation plan, you may be sitting on a sizable balance by the time you retire. As retirement approaches, you may be wondering: “What do I do with my 457 deferred compensation plan?” Many people unintentionally make a costly mistake. They roll their entire 457 balance into an IRA the moment they retire, thinking it's the right move. It might seem logical to combine accounts and keep things simple by moving everything into one IRA. However, this move eliminates a key advantage of a 457 plan: you lose penalty-free access to your money before age 59½. Let’s look at how this works and how you can set up your retirement accounts to stay flexible in your early retirement years. Early Retirement at 55: The Income Gap Problem Whether you're covered by LEOFF Plan 2 or PERSI, retiring around age 55 is entirely realistic. LEOFF Plan 2 members can retire with a full benefit at age 53 (or as early as 50 with 20 years of service and a reduced benefit). Idaho PERSI first responders can retire as early as 50 under the Rule of 80. The years between ages 55 and 59½ are a unique financial period. Your pension might cover a portion of your income needs, but often not everything. Social Security usually starts much later, and if most of your retirement savings are in IRAs, taking out money early can trigger penalties. This is where your 457 plan can be especially helpful. Unlike most retirement accounts, 457 plans let you take out money without the 10% early withdrawal penalty once you separate from service. This rule gives you a helpful bridge between retiring and the time when traditional retirement accounts become easier to access. You lose this benefit if you move your money into an IRA too soon. If your pension doesn't cover all your needs and you rolled everything into an IRA, you might face penalties or be unable to access your money. This early-retirement gap is exactly what good 457 planning can help you avoid. 457 Plan Withdrawal Rules Once you separate from service, whether you quit, get laid off, or retire, you can start taking 457 withdrawals from your 457 plan without a 10% penalty, no matter your age. Whether you're 55, 45, or even 35, the penalty doesn't apply. If you move money from your 401(k) or another account into your 457 and then withdraw it, that money loses the 457's penalty-free status. It’s now treated like IRA money and is subject to the 10% early withdrawal penalty. Only the original 457 money stays penalty-free. You will still owe ordinary income taxes on every withdrawal from a traditional 457, just like an IRA. The key difference is that you don’t have to pay the extra 10% penalty, which can save you thousands of dollars. Should I Roll My 457 Into an IRA? Now that you know the withdrawal rules, you might be asking yourself, “Should I roll my 457 into an IRA?” This is an important question, and the answer is: it depends. Usually, moving everything at once isn’t the best idea. Many people roll their entire 457 into an IRA at retirement because it’s often suggested as a way to “consolidate” and “simplify.” While there are legitimate reasons to roll some money into an IRA, doing it all at once at age 55 means you lose your penalty-free income bridge. A few of the advantages of rolling some money into an IRA are: More investment options Estate planning flexibility Roth conversion strategies A better strategy for most first responders retiring around 55 is to split your 457 balance into two parts, or “buckets,” each with its own role in your retirement plan: Bucket 1: Use your 457 account for early-retirement cash flow. This is the money you'll live on from age 55 to 59½ (or whenever your pension plus other income is sufficient). The 457 allows penalty-free withdrawals at any time, so you control both the amount and timing of distributions. This bucket bridges the gap until your other income starts coming in. Bucket 2: Roll into an IRA for long-term growth. Once you've determined how much you need for the early years, the rest can be rolled into a traditional IRA. The IRA bucket offers more investment choices and greater flexibility for estate planning or Roth conversion. Here’s an example: Jason is a firefighter retiring at 55 from Washington with $300,000 in his 457. His LEOFF Plan 2 pension covers most of his expenses but leaves a $1,500 per month gap. Instead of rolling everything to an IRA, he keeps $90,000 in the 457, which covers about five years of that gap at $1,500/month, and rolls the remaining $210,000 into a traditional IRA. The $90,000 stays accessible, penalty-free, and the $210,000 continues to grow. By the time he turns 59½, the IRA restrictions are gone, and he hasn't paid any unnecessary penalties. Deferred Compensation Rollover: What You Need to Know If you decide to roll part of your 457 into an IRA, the process is simple. You can move your 457 into another retirement account, like a traditional IRA, Roth IRA, 401(k), 403(b), or another 457 plan. There are a few things to keep in mind: Direct rollover is the best option. Have your 457 plan send the money straight to your IRA provider. If you get the check yourself, you have 60 days to put it into your IRA, and your employer will withhold 20% for taxes. If you miss the 60-day deadline, it will be treated as a taxable withdrawal. Roth conversions are possible, but watch the tax hit. You can convert your 457 to a Roth IRA, but be careful about taxes. If you do this soon after retiring, your income might be lower, which could make it a good time for a Roth conversion. Just make sure not to convert everything at once without checking the tax impact. Putting IRA money back into your 457 is usually not a good idea. Once IRA or other retirement plan money goes into your 457, it loses the penalty-free withdrawal benefit. Only do this if you have a very specific reason. Washington's DCP and Idaho's PERSI Choice 401(k) have their own rules. Washington state's Deferred Compensation Program (DCP) is administered by the Department of Retirement Systems (DRS). Idaho first responders may have the PERSI Choice 401(k) as well as other 457 plans. Be sure you know which accounts you're dealing with before starting any rollovers. Here are two helpful resources: Washington DRS (DCP information) Idaho PERSI A Note on Taxes and Required Minimum Distributions Even if you don’t pay a penalty, you still need to think about taxes. Every dollar you take from a traditional 457 counts as regular income for that year. If you're not careful with how much you withdraw, you could end up in a higher tax bracket, especially if your pension income is already high. This is one reason the bucket approach is helpful: you can control how much you withdraw from your 457 each year and keep your taxable income in a comfortable range. It’s also important to know that required minimum distributions from traditional 457 accounts begin at age 73 or 75, depending on when you were born. Beginning in 2024, Roth 457(b) accounts in governmental plans became exempt from RMDs under the SECURE 2.0 Act. This is another reason to think about whether Roth contributions or conversions are right for you. Talk With Us Before Rolling Your 457 The 457 plan is a powerful tool, and rolling it into an IRA without careful thought means losing the feature that makes it so valuable for retirees. At Five Pine Wealth Management, we help many first responders and public employees in Washington and Idaho. We know the ins and outs of WA LEOFF Plan 2, Idaho PERSI, deferred compensation plans, and the unique challenges of retiring earlier than most people. If you're within 10 years of retirement, or if you're already retired and want to make sure your money is set up the right way, we'd be happy to help. Call us at 877.333.1015 or email info@fivepinewealth.com. Before making a decision about your 457 rollover, let’s make sure your retirement accounts are working together as they should be. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: Does a 457 rollover to an IRA count as a taxable event? A: A direct rollover from a traditional 457 to a traditional IRA is not taxable. Q: Can I take money out of my 457 while I'm still working? A: Generally, no. 457 plans don't allow withdrawals while you're still employed, except for very limited exceptions (such as an unforeseeable emergency). The penalty-free access kicks in once you separate from service. Q: What happens to my 457 if I roll it into an IRA and then need money before age 59½?  A: You lose the 457's penalty-free protection. If you roll 457 funds into a traditional IRA, you lose the flexibility of penalty-free early withdrawals and become subject to a 10% early withdrawal penalty

“Which Account Do I Pull From First?” A Guide to Smarter Retirement Withdrawals

March 26, 2026
Key Takeaways Your retirement withdrawal order affects your taxes, Medicare premiums, and how long your money lasts. The traditional sequence (taxable → tax-deferred → Roth) is a useful starting point, but it isn't right for everyone. Drawing from multiple account types at the same time can help you manage your tax bracket year to year. Roth conversions in the early years of retirement can reduce your future RMD burden. If you're approaching retirement, there's a good chance you've spent decades doing everything right. You saved consistently, maxed out your accounts, and built a solid nest egg across multiple account types. But once retirement arrives, the question shifts. It's no longer "How do I save more?" It's "Which account do I pull from first?" It's a question most people haven't thought much about — and understandably so. You've spent years focused on building. But how you draw down your accounts matters just as much as how you built them up. Why Your Retirement Withdrawal Order Matters It's tempting to assume you can just pull from whichever account is most convenient. And honestly, in the short term, that works fine. Over a 20- or 30-year retirement, though, the sequence of your withdrawals shapes your tax bracket every single year, your Medicare premiums, the growth potential of your remaining accounts, and what you eventually leave behind for your family. Your retirement accounts aren’t taxed the same way: Traditional 401(k) or IRA : Tax-deferred, owing ordinary income tax on withdrawals Roth IRA : Tax-free, no taxes on qualified withdrawals Taxable brokerage account : More favorable long-term capital gains rate when holding investments for a year or more A thoughtful withdrawal strategy draws from each bucket in a way that keeps your taxable income as smooth and low as possible throughout retirement. The Traditional Withdrawal Order (and When It Makes Sense) For many retirees, the conventional wisdom goes like this: 1. Start with taxable accounts. Brokerage accounts and savings are often tapped first because the growth in these accounts is taxed annually anyway, and using them first lets your tax-advantaged accounts continue to grow undisturbed. 2. Move to tax-deferred accounts next. Your traditional IRA, 401(k), or 403(b) accounts are next in line. Withdrawals here are taxed as ordinary income, so drawing on them in a thoughtful, measured way helps you avoid unnecessary jumps into higher tax brackets. 3. Preserve Roth accounts for last. Roth IRAs aren't subject to Required Minimum Distributions (RMDs) during your lifetime, and withdrawals are tax-free. Letting your Roth sit and grow as long as possible tends to pay off, both for you and for any heirs who may inherit it. This framework is a reasonable starting point, and for some retirees, it works well. But it's not a universal rule. Where the Traditional Order Falls Short Here's a scenario we see fairly often. A client retires at 63 with most of their savings in a traditional IRA. They draw from their taxable accounts first — totally reasonable. But by the time they hit 73, their IRA has grown large enough that the required distributions push them into a higher tax bracket than they were in at the start of retirement. Throw in Medicare surcharges (called IRMAA), and what felt like a smart, conservative strategy in their 60s has quietly created a real tax burden a decade later. That's why we often recommend a more nuanced approach — one that considers what your tax picture looks like across your entire retirement, not just in the first year or two. Tax Diversification and the Case for Blending A blended decumulation strategy, rather than a strict withdrawal sequence, often serves retirees better than following one account type at a time. The goal is to keep your taxable income in a range that helps you stay below the thresholds that trigger higher tax brackets, IRMAA surcharges, and heavier taxation on Social Security benefits. Here's a practical example: if your expenses can be covered by a mix of Social Security and modest IRA withdrawals that keep you in the 12% tax bracket, you might also consider doing some Roth conversions that same year. You'd move money from your traditional IRA to your Roth while your tax rate is still low. Yes, you pay the tax now. But from that point on, your Roth grows tax-free — and your future RMDs shrink. It takes careful planning and realistic income projections, but for many retirees, it's one of the most effective tools available. The Behavioral Side of Withdrawal Strategy We've covered the math. But there's a human side to this that doesn't get talked about enough. A lot of retirees feel hesitant to touch certain accounts, especially ones they spent decades carefully building. We've worked with clients who had more than enough saved but were pulling too little — simply because spending down their IRA felt uncomfortable. That emotional hesitation sometimes led them to draw from the wrong accounts for the wrong reasons. Having a clear, written withdrawal plan takes a lot of that pressure off. When you know which account you're pulling from and why, you're far less likely to second-guess yourself when markets get bumpy or make reactive moves that throw off an otherwise solid plan. Think of it as guardrails: a defined spending amount, a clear account order, and a scheduled check-in to revisit when things change. There’s No One-Size-Fits-All Answer The right withdrawal sequence depends on things specific to you: how much you have and where it's held, your expected income in retirement, when you plan to take Social Security, whether you have a pension, how your state treats retirement income, and what you'd like to leave behind. A strategy that's a perfect fit for one person can create real headaches for another. That's why this is one of the first things we talk through with clients who are getting close to retirement — and one we revisit as things change. If you're within five to ten years of retirement and haven't mapped out a withdrawal plan yet, now is a good time to start. Before RMDs kick in is often when you have the most flexibility to plan. We'd love to walk through what this looks like for your specific situation. Reach out anytime at info@fivepinewealth.com or call 877.333.1015. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: Does my withdrawal order change if I have a pension? A: Yes, it can. A pension provides guaranteed income, so you may already be covering a good chunk of your expenses before touching your investment accounts. That changes how aggressively you need to draw from tax-deferred accounts — and may create more room for Roth conversions early in retirement. Q: How does Social Security timing affect my withdrawal strategy? A: If you delay Social Security to boost your monthly benefit, you'll need to cover living expenses from your portfolio in the meantime. That gap period is often a smart time to draw down traditional IRA balances at a lower tax rate, before Social Security income pushes your taxable income higher. Q: Can my withdrawal order affect my Medicare premiums?  A: It can. Medicare uses your income from two years prior to set your Part B and Part D premiums. A large IRA withdrawal that bumps your income above certain thresholds could mean higher premiums (IRMAA surcharges) two years down the road. Keeping those thresholds in mind when planning withdrawals can help you avoid some unwelcome surprises. Five Pine Wealth Management is a fee-only, fiduciary financial planning firm based in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. We work with individuals and families across the country who want thoughtful, personalized guidance — without the conflicts of interest that come with commission-based advice.